Things I Want To Change in Myself - Confession

There's no human being that is perfect. We have flaws everywhere because we made mistakes. They could come from making poor or wrong decisions, fail or unable to see from other people's perspective, making assumptions about what others think about us, and more. From those mistakes, we learn something valuable and improve ourselves to become a better person. This process is what makes us human and it is also the most improtant life lesson you have to experience. Time and experience are the best teachers to teach us powerful lessons about our life.

“Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it’s a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.”

“Well, we all make mistakes, so just put it behind you. We should regret our mistakes and learn from them, but never carry them forward into the future with us.” 

In today's blog post, I want to share the things I'm aiming to make myself better. Everything I will mention here is what I've been struggling to change for my life.

1. Have a mature attitude and personality.
   I have to say, this particular part of me is the hardest one to overcome. I admit that I haven't matured yet and hate myself for it when I see the person and people I love ges hurt by my short thinking. Being mature especially for women has a strong influence in all aspects of their life. I keep struggling on changing myself to behave maturely. I don't mean the way I look and dressed, it's about whether I learn from my mistakes and try not to repeat those mistakes, how I handle and deal with my problems, change the way I think toward something, having a wiser way of thinking, all other things that can make us turn into a more mature person.

   "You may not be able to control every situation and it's outcome, but you can control your attitude and how you deal with it. Maturity doesn't mean age, it means sensitivity, manners and how you react”

   
   
2. See from others' point of view.
   
   Whenever I have to deal with personal problems, I tend to get sensitive first because I always think whatever I do is always wrong in front of the other person. I keep blaming myself that I'm the one who cause the problem and I am responsible for making the problem become worse too. I have been like these; seeing things only in my perspective, blaming myself for everything that happened, putting myself in the lowest position because I feel that no one is going to support me; and I always find myself falling down in the same hole. I really need extra hardwork, determination, and motivation for driving me to change my perspective. I slowly learn to see situations from other people's point of view and avoiding making the same mistkes. This is a life time process so I have to embrace it because that's what makes me become the person I am today. It is such an overwhelming feeling once you try to see something from a different perspective.
   

   "Sometimes you need to look at Life from a different perspective. As you change your point of view, your views brings about a change in you. Only those who'd changed could see things from a different point of view.""You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” 

3. Think more positively.
   

   I used to think of myself as a total pessimist and I still am now, but not as worse as before. It has something to do with the problems I mentioned before, unable to see from other people's perspective, put a blame on myself for what happened, and the worst one is my ego is in my way to see things differently. I am an optimist when I'm calm and I can control myself and handle the situation at times, however I can turn 180 degrees to a total pesimist when I start to worry things and thinking too far ahead about what might happen next. I just can't help it and it's really bad for me. In order to change this, I have to try to think positively first and control my negative thoughts so that I have a different view of the things I face and deal with.

"Think positive, be positive and positive things will happen. Positive thinking is not about expecting the best to happen every time but accepting that whatever happenes is the best for the moment. Live your life happy to the fullest."

4. Control my emotions and feelings.
   I have issues with controlling both my emotions and feelings. I unconciously showing or letting people know what I feel at the moment and you can tell it straight away by my gestures, body language, facial expression, and the way I talk or speak. We can't deny that we are driven by our emotions day by day and they are altered from time to time. I'm not saying that we must never show our emotions at all, it's just the negative emotions that need extreme and special treatment. In order to be able to control my emotions and feelings, I learn to take a deep breath to calm myself down, then think logically and replace my thoughts into something positive. Once you try it, you'll be surprised how great it feels that you've finally done it for the first time.

"Don't let your emotion distract you from doing what needs to be done. Control your emotions so your emotions do not control you. You can't control your emotion, but you can control your action. Learn how to control your emotions. Choose them, don't let them choose you."

Well, that's just a few things I want to share with you. I am still learning to become a better person and I am not tired of it. I know myself very well that I am still far from being mature and I have been told by others that I need to keep learning from my mistakes and take the lessons from it. I am working really hard to change myself to be better, especially for someone I care so much.

I'm not asking you to feel pity about me. I'm sorry that I don't elaborate this blog post well enough. I am grateful that I have become a different person compare to years before. I hope this blog post can inspire others to become a better person. Look forward to my next blog post.

Regards,


Neyllz ♥