Moving on from Break Ups.. How hard can it be..?

To men and women on this planet,

To be in a relationship with someone you love is indeed something that we all want in our life. We're hoping this person who has been with you long enough is your one and only true love. A wonderful proposal, gorgeous wedding party, and other things we want for a wonderful happily ever after life with our other half. Overall, we all want the same thing in life, meeting the person we called as soul mate and be with him/her for the rest of our life.

    

Then again, we live in reality, and of course we can not have exactly everything in life. We all have our ups and downs moments in life, in this case to be in love with someone and then something happened thus breaking up. Some people can not deal with break ups easily, others have their own ways to deal with break ups. In today's blog post, I'm going to talk about ways to deal with break ups. So, grab your notes and pen, and let's get down to business..!

First off, what feelings do we get from break ups? anger? sad? depressed? stressed? hate? all of those are negative, and it will consume us if we just let it stay within ourselves. It is normal to feel like that because it shows that you are a human being, however, do you want to feel like that for the rest of your life..? Just because you are not together with the person you love anymore doesn't mean that it's the end of the world for you. I know it's easier said than done, but believe me, once you take the first step, you're one step closer and closer to freedom.

So, how do we deal with break ups..? There are so many ways to do it, well.. I'm going to share some steps or ways to do so based on my own experience.

1. Learn how to let go.
   Once again, easier said than done. How do we let go of someone who have already been in our life?? Well, I have thought about this myself, "Once a person comes into your life, by the time he left you, everything about him stays and stucks in your mind, memories, and heart.. and what sucks about it is that it lasts FOREVER..!". Life sure is sucks and everything BAD that we want to get away from it, thus we try to find some "shortcuts". Did you ever think about what would happen to everyone who still cares about you? Mom and Dad (family), best friends, and most of all, GOD himself..? Your family and friends will be wondering what happened to you and why you try to get "shortcuts". I'm not saying that I am GOD himself, but think about it, He created you to have a purpose in your life but you choose something else, can you imagine how sad He will be..? You can think about more reasons why you must never get "shortcuts".
   The easiest way to let go is to get rid of things related to your ex, photos, clothes, gifts, everything that reminds you of your ex, GET RID OF THEM! I know you have memories about those stuffs. You will know it yourself which one to keep and which one to throw away. No one says that this step is easy. You have to do it yourself and you can finally realize how good it feels to let go. By letting go, you are removing toxins inside your mind and heart. It takes a long process until you can finally be free from your ex.
   
   
   
2. Find something to distract yourself from thinking about your ex.
   Distracting yourself from thinking about your ex is another way to deal with break ups. What should we do to distract ourselves? There are a lot of things we can do! When was the last time you hung out with your friends? Meet your friends or best friends and catch up with what you have in your life so far with them. Surround yourself with positive people, thus you will be positive towards your life.
   Ladies, you know you like to go shopping. Go ahead and shop 'til you drop *not literally though XP* Window shopping is fine too. It's time to "spoil" yourself after a horrible break up. Have yourself a beauty day and pamper yourself with beauty products. Gents, you know you like sports. Go get your friends to play sports with you. Not only it is healthy for your body, but also you finally get together again with your friends. You can even have your own after break up to-do list. Go think about fun activities you can do and enjoy, whether it is just for yourself or with your friends. I have my own ways to distract myself, which is watching my favorite animes and movies. Sometimes I go shopping by myself. You might think that having a dream board is not really helping, but is there anything wrong about it to have one? I decided to make one myself months after my worst break up ever and I can see that I have reached some goals in my life, and for that I am thankful and grateful to the Almighty one who owns Heaven and Earth.
   
   
   
3. Focus on PRESENT time.
   What is important to remember each and everyday, we live in the PRESENT! There's no point holding on to your past, it will only make you harder to move on with your life. Everybody knows this quote, "Yesterday is HISTORY, Tomorrow is MISTERY, and Today is a GIFT, that's why they called it as PRESENT". Back to what I have thought to myself about letting go, I said to myself, "Just get on with my life and face reality in my own way. Get on, move on, deal with it and suck it up!" Does your tears worth to be wasted for someone like that who breaks your heart? Cry as much as you want then stop, it's time to focus yourself on what you have right now. Be grateful for every single thing you have in your life. Don't blame yourself for everything that went wrong in your life. It has to happen like that because He wants you to learn something from it. You have to focus yourself in this present time (now) because it makes you learn to appreciate what you have in your life and what you have done to achieve it.
   
   
   
4. Change yourself.
   It doesn't mean you have to change into something else. Change your appearance, you can start by changing your hair color or your hairstyle. There's nothing wrong to go outside of the box. Men and women can be fashionable, thus you can change the way you dressed. For women, go try to be more feminine or casual or preppy or whatever style you like. Maybe you can start wearing makeup or try a new makeup look, to enhance your beauty. For men, you can do the same, minus the makeup. Just be yourself! Be whoever you want to be! Personally, I have tried to wear dresses and it makes me feel a little bit more confident. I have dyed and redyed my hair several times too and I really love my hair and the way I look now. Love yourself first then you can feel the overwhelming confidence you get once you do it.
   
   
   
5. Do something to motivate yourself to move on with life.
   You can find so many articles about how to deal with break ups from different sources. You can also watch some videos about it too. I'll give some links related to today's topic here.
   
   
   Styling an Outfit to restore your confidence : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HBQXjc7K4o8
   Girl's Guide to Starting Over : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CRfCRQOKw7Q
   Getting over break ups : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2eJwU-Ug8yk

Now that I have mentioned how I deal with break ups and how to move on with my life, do you still think that moving on from break ups is really difficult? There are still lots of ways to deal with break ups that I can not mention here one by one. Those are my ways to deal with it. How about you? Do you have your own ways to deal with break ups or move on from break ups? Share it here in the comments.

I wish for all the best in our life. Hopefully someday, we can finally meet the one that is meant to be for us. God is still writing about my love story for He is preparing the best for everything for me, so does He prepares it for all of you.

Regards,

Neyllz ♥